How do you want to feel?
It’s a strange question, and one you’ve probably never been asked in the context of kink/fetish/D/s.
For most of my ProDomming career I’ve asked people about the activities they are interested in as well as how they identify themselves. This has obviously given me an insight into compatibility.
However, as time goes on I’ve come to realise that a better question to ask is how you want to feel?
When I’ve explored with people disappointments from the past, it always boiled down to not feeling how they wanted or envisaged.
How do you want to feel before a session, during a session and after a session?
Do you want to feel vulnerable, scared, calm, high, relaxed, humiliated, controlled, degraded. release (emotional), open, free, liberated, nurtured, restrained, brave, heroic, connected?
For me, in session I want to feel
This underpins where we start and then our mutual interests can be added in to create our session time. This is a collaborative process. Giving over complete control is a process of collaborating in your own submission/masochism/fetish.
For those that just cannot live without lists of interests the following are activities I absolutely love:
The following is a list of things I have no interest in:
- Hard sports
- Adult baby
- Tie and tease